Since my dad moved to the nosebleed section of Manhattan this has become a common meeting place. Sometimes we head into the park for catch. Sometimes we sit under the fountain and watch the people. I had never noticed, all those other times, the boy pushing back against the rising tide of the city.
Q:y r u a closet case. faggot
Dear Anonymous of Pasadena,
Thank you for Googling me! And thank you for your question, punctuated as a statement, and written out like the title to a discarded Prince song.
This word has been hurled at me since the seventh grade. I’m 36 years old. My instinct, is that you anonymous, are currently in the 7th grade. And, are terrified.
My guess is that you chose this word because you are afraid of being gay, seen as gay, or of being around gay people and not knowing how to act. As a result, you’ve decided to troll the internet, and throw this word at a stranger anonymously, to feel more like a man.
Is it working?
If not, may I offer a few suggestions?
1. Protect those that are weaker than you.
2. Offer help to those in need.
3. Carry the heavy stuff.
4. Be the one to stop the fight, not the one to start it.
5. Listen, even if you don’t agree.
6. Choose kindness.
7. Open doors for all women. All the time.
8. Spend time with the elderly.
9. Stand up for what you believe. Stand by your statements, and your questions. Be brave. Show your face. Sign your name.
All the best men I know, do these things, no matter who they love.
Anonymous, you are loved.
This ‘closet case faggot’ appreciates you. Thanks for taking the time to remind me how far I’ve come, and how far we still have to go.
LACMA - Young Directors Night
LACMA Muse’s annual celebration of the best in local film.
Hosted by Elvis Mitchell of KCRW’s ‘The Treatment,’ the event showcases short films by Los Angeles filmmakers, followed by a discussion among the directors and a panel of film-industry insiders.
Selected from over 160 submissions, this year’s featured films are:
Drum-Off by Miles Crawford
Twenty-Two Date Palm Way by Tamar Levine
Kepler X-47, by Erin Li
Me + Her, by Joseph Oxford
Mr. Bear, by Andres Rosende
Bunion, by Jessica Sanders
Boys of Soweto, by Meja Shoba
Out of the Blue, by Margot Ye
Tickets: 323 857-6010 or purchase online.
Q:Are you related to Peter Block?
He’s my cousin. And, I wish I saw him more often than I do. If you know him, please give him a hug for me.
Q:What is the secret to happiness?
This question seems to be a very active topic of discussion and art lately. Which has got me thinking about this a lot. That, and a year ago I went through a depression. The upshot is that I’ve been paying closer attention to when I am happy. Listening for it. Sometimes making a mental note of happiness as it’s happening will increase the joy in the moment, making room for even more.
As for creating happiness… I think everyone’s happy place is different, but a few things that work for me that also might be universal:
2. Moving my body, and breaking a sweat. For me it is often on a bike or dancing. Do what suits you.
3. When I remember to stop comparing myself to anyone else. Choosing to revel in the fact that there is only one of me. Sounds cheesy but that shit works. And, it’s true.
4. Building and fostering community.
5. Smiling, especially at strangers. Definitely in that moment when I would normally look away.
For more in-depth ideas on happiness I highly recommend the documentary, “Happy.” I found it to be incredibly enlightening and informative. You can click the link here, or check it out on Netflix.
One study mentioned in the movie talked about the difference in the types of goals we create for ourselves, and their effects on our happiness: extrinsic goals (money, image, status) and intrinsic goals (personal growth, relationships, helping others) – Extrinsically oriented people tend to get stuck on the “hedonic treadmill.” Intrinsically oriented people are found to be happier.
There is a lot of other great information in the movie as well.
Two more things that I just remembered -
6. Taking stock of the things in my life that I am grateful for. Even if it is just the fact that I am breathing.
7. Consciously putting the phone down and stepping away from the computer.
I hope this helps.
The first step.
A year ago, I bought a camera.
Then, in my calendar, scheduled one shoot per month without knowing what they’d be, perhaps to justify the scary purchase.
To my surprise, I actually stuck to that schedule. In fact I exceeded it.
I would like to share all of the things that I have shot this year, but I don’t want to try your patience, and some projects are still under wraps, some are still in production. (Look at me sounding all Hollywood)
So here are a few highlights:
[link coming soon]
I Forgot My Phone: or “The shot heard ‘round the world.” Char’s idea for this video came out of an ongoing discussion she and I had had since 2011. After we posted it I remember thinking in the first few hours before it caught fire, “I’m glad we made this video, it’s too bad only our friends will see it.” …35,000,000 views and counting.
Relationship Status: My first foray into directing sketch, written by the hilarious Cynthia Kao, this one video taught me so much about pacing and tone and coverage. Very grateful to have worked on it.
Nice Rap: Another result of my job this fall as an after-school teacher. I can only take credit for cinematography and editing on this little gem. 12 year old, Owen Plofker (in blue), wrote the rap and staged this music video which was so much fun to shoot.
There is a lot in store already for the coming year, I can’t wait to share what’s next!
Thank you for watching!
Q:you're so interesting, i'm currently on page 14 of your blog (mega creeping) and it's amazing to read about some of the things you've been able to do. i want to be an actress even though i'm from a small town in england and you have just made me realise i'd do anything to make this come true and it's possible (because of the fact you've been in so many amazing things and have toured (almost?) the world) you've also just made me want to move to hollywood/la 1000000x more
It is possible. DON’T GIVE UP.
There is something that all of my actor friends that live here live by: It is a last-man-standing game. If you love it, stick with it.
If there is something you’d rather do, then do that.
At this point in my life I really believe that you owe it to yourself and to the world to do what you love, wether you get paid for it or not.
LOVE, it is what we are here for.
ps. Thank you for sending me your love.